Friends bring the sunshine to you, but you can’t treat them as the sun, just it.





I lost my mobile phone the end of the year 2006. I lost my friends the beginning of 2007. I ever cried for this the whole night. Not because of the phone itself, but for the numbers in it. It contains all my relationships in the world , I feel that I lost myself the day I lost the phone. My brother persuaded me that so many people lost so many friends for so many reason in so many days, it is not strange, or even more popular. Old things go and new things come.Maybe It is a good way for me to say goodbye to 2006, and say hello to 2007.

Was it ?



I lost my friends this way , what about you ,my friends? I have no idea how to guess about it .



There are so many methods of connecting nowadays. As mobile , qq ,msn ,email, namecardect ,coming out , all these contact carriers experience the same changeable process:



First , who are remained . They are the objects who are often to be disturbed because of some utilitarian aims or some certain reasons; second, who are deleted. most of them are the dispensable, such as some good friends before, but now alienate from each other because of different views on life; third, who are good friends not contacting so often, but also old one with deep belief; forth ,who are just meet for the only first time but feel good for another or adore him or her ------things like them .



But as friends, the less you keep in touch with them, the more stranger you’ll feel; and the more stranger you feel , the less necessary of communication you’ll find. So in the end, you have to delete it. Although you maybe keep the copy of it, the possibility of communication is so slim.I believe all of us don’t like to see this happen, but what indeed cause us to delete each other.



And why ?I think I am thinking now.



Under the pressure of work and life, we gradually lost our concern of friends. Since the city with the concrete made us more and more lazy, we have so little energy to contact and communicate with our friends whom we should have contacted and communicated with. Maybe this is the main reason for losing friends.



The differences of the environment around us make it a possible way to see our friends going away. As we have the convenience of the space and the approach of the life, the mutual acquisition and feelings, so we get together. But when all of these change, the distance comes into being. Different experiences bring us different ideas of life and society; maybe it is impossible to be bosom friends as ever.



Misunderstanding maybe has become another enemy which can influence feelings between friends. Even if the best friends, they can’t avoid misunderstanding completely. If the misunderstanding happens in which it shouldn’t happen, the friendship will disappear more quickly without reasonable explanation.



Life is like the forest, and friend is the scenery. The scenery changes with each step when you keep on going forward.Anyhow, please forgive our friends and forgive yourself----­--after all, the time and energy of each person are limited, they can’t take their feelings equally and send to all of his friendships.



It is better for us to forget than to remember something. Maybe someday, there are new changes in our lives, and we meet each other in the street for another time, isn’t it another kind of happiness?



Now I understand. I understand all the results and all my friends. So if I don’t call you recently, just because some “because”, it is not what I want indeed. I bought a new mobile as soon as possible in the newyear. And now I am waiting for my friends, my lost friends, remained or deleted, waiting for them to call me soon . I am here waiting for you. Just as you are waiting for me.



But, have you ever lost , my friends ?



[ 本帖最后由 lynda 于 2007-3-2 19:31 编辑 ]

Well...as what I said in your last post--maybe grils are born writers ;-)

Real friends will never retreat from your life

Life is like the forest, and friend is the scenery.

please forgive our friends and forgive yourself.

brilliant sentences , how classic they are!you are a real philosopher!

while, mightitbe more polished expression:

Life is forest, and friend is scenery.

please forgive our friends and forgive ourselves.

these sentencts make me think of becan 'sessay: on study, andBible's belief .

they are really flowers ofwisdom!

go ahead!

如果是中文内容怪怪,但是用英文来读很爽!呵呵!

I started to use mobile phone at the end of 2005, one of my friends came to Beijing , not particularly to see me , but a regular meeting is always unavoidable . The thing is ,i didn't have a cellphone then ,so it was quite a while before she could reach me . then we fixed the time and place , made a plan . but i kind of missed the place and can't find her .finally i got to a payphone and called her. That experience blowed my mind ,i got myself a cell the very next day . Since then the little digital guy has been always in the pocket of my pant , seems like i cannot live without it .It is imaginable what a horrible situation you'd be facing when you accidentally lost you phone. like you are drifting away from all of your friends ,and what makes it worse, it happens all of a sudden, one minute you are happy with all your aquaintances around, next you find yourself surrounded by intense , endless fog without a single person by your side.That is the normal situation morden people frequently bumpped into . and that raises one question : are we closer to each other?

I went back home this festival ,it is a small town , no ,village would fit better.people living there all know each other well ,because they've been living there all their lilves . I was walkingin the narrow street with my mother ,sometimes without ,it startled me how people could recognize instantly who i am and greeting warmly like we are family , i remember last time i went back it was two years ago and i changed a lot . But they told me they will never fail to spot me 'coz i was born and raised up there ,and i resemble my father so much. People there seldom use cellphone ,always resort to feet when they need to contact someone. After living in the morden city for several years i still find this non-cellphone communication touchs the very bottom of my heart , in my dearing little village people greeting each other with all their heart and without a single clue of fakeness. But we ,modern people living in fancy big cities, we rely on our expensive little wireless buddies to forster the relations with our friends. "it's you ,me ,connected trough a satellite ; it's you , me , love through a machine." Even love ,used to be the only holy thing in the earth could be pusuited by a cellphone .yeah , what can you say , what could you do . maybe drop your phone and leave yourself alone , give yourself a moment of peace and think about it .

wooow, losing your phone seems like a neat idea!

[ 本帖最后由 RayCard 于 2007-3-6 11:40 编辑 ]

it took me nearly ten minutes to read it ...so long...

and wish you willfind your friends soon.

To avoid confusion and convenient for touching with my friends ASAP ,I always note new number of my friend in my communication-book which is only for marking methods of connecting Just as phone no.,qq no. msn id,email etc.Then I'm not worry about for this case . I think it's a good way to keep in touch with our friends.

Wish you'll find your friends soon.

I didn't read the whole words.But you will never lose your real friends.

There is a theory.When you forget something, that thing is not really been vanish from you brain.You just do not know where to get it out.

I guess friendship is the same. You think you lost your friend. Go, find your friend. We got your back.

i think you are very agnoy when you lost you mobile,you did not loss you friends,because the really friends would come back!

It hurts to love someone and not to be loved in return, bur what's more painful is love sb and

never courage to let that person konw how do you feel.

So,everyone,pelase pay more attion to the one you really love.

Don't cay because it's over,smile because it's happened!

sorry for not coming here for so long time .

and thanks for all your wishes and advices

so when you love someone ,just say it out ,say it please , otherwise ,the moment will pass you by .

thanks for your praise ,bobo

you boys also be born-writers!

and like what you said "Real friends will never retreat from your life"

I find them now

thank you ,lillan, for your encouragment .

I'll do my best for what I like ,what I am after for

go ahead .

thank you also ,my friend . although there are may be some criticise in it .hehe

i agree with lullaby and houzi,we will never lose our friends indeed.sometimes we may be separated from our friends,but we still have chance to get together.