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[原创]To say or not to say

发布者: Cactus | 发布时间: 2005-12-14 11:13| 查看数: 6331| 评论数: 7|

For such a long time, I chose not to write even a single word, for I’m hesitated about the question: to say or not to say.<o:p></o:p>
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I’m that kind of straightforward person, and I have got so used to share almost every detail about the happenings in my life with other people.<o:p></o:p>
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It’s not until I started to work in this society that I know to say a lot means trouble, and thus realizing the very wisdom of the old Chinese saying that silence is the gold.
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I don’t intend to judge people like the opinion that I have already had in my mind. However, I truly take it for granted that it’s better not to say in most occasions, even in front of your colleagues and friends.<o:p></o:p>
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Take this friend of mine for instance, as you have also pointed out that she has been jealous about me all the time, but I just failed to notice it in time. As a result, her envy eventually intensified into such an unbearable level to me, and our friendship is probably to end.<o:p></o:p>
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I have talked too much in front of her, even though I thought she ought to have been very happy to share with my good stories, but she had been envious instead.<o:p></o:p>
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My concern is quite obvious. If you talk about your achievements, few listeners will be happy about it at all, some of them might misunderstood you as boasting yourself, some others might be jealous, and the rest will feel even hurt, for their situation might be exactly in the opposite.<o:p></o:p>
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For the above reasons, I take it for granted that it’s not reasonable to share your achievements and happiness with others. On the other hand, it’s also unsuitable to make complaints.<o:p></o:p>
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It’s simple to understand that nobody will like to be treated as a “rubbish bin” for unpleasant complaints. We get all our own worries and concerns, we are busy with our own life, we get no time to think about too many unhappy or even depressing things, which may not happen to us, but was forced to listen by our acquaintances.<o:p></o:p>
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I used to be very pessimistic about life, I had been complaining for my unnecessary worries all the time. I came to realize what a great torture my friend could already have suffered, so I tried hard not to open my mouth.<o:p></o:p>
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To say or not to say, I tend to answer this question with the latter. As I illustrated above, it’s not good to talk about neither good things nor bad. <o:p></o:p>
One of my friends, who had worked for just a few months once reminded me that ”there is no friends in office, but just colleagues, it’s dangerous to share too much personal information or life with your colleagues, for you never know whether they will be your enemy some other day.”<o:p></o:p>
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Another friend of mine also mentioned that she could hardly understand that why I was so honest to these unknown net-pals, to share my real name, career, workplace, or even the detailed happenings in the office. To her, strangers are after all strangers, you never know these hidden people, and so were the potential danger or harm that they might bring you.<o:p></o:p>
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I take their words into consideration, and I have seen the importance of being alert as a social person. The fact is that you never know what’s happening in this rapid changing word, and what it will be if there are the inevitable conflicts in interest. <o:p></o:p>
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To say or not to say, as a social being, we do need to think about this question, what do you think ?<o:p></o:p>
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 Joan wrote in office on December 14th, 2005 <o:p></o:p>
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kevin 发表于 2005-12-14 12:13:04

Joan,
I'd like to be the "rubbish bin" , try to release, refresh, we could be critical, but at no time cynical, bear in mind, we can't make every people happy at the same time, u don't have to be sophisticated,just be urself in a moderate way, that will do good to ur melting into this society !
drop me some words if u like.
Regards,
Kevin

puppy 发表于 2005-12-15 20:42:54

Dear sister,
 Sorry for my late reply for your post. Quite busy these days,and most of my time has been preoccupied by my busy job in our company. Occasionally I bumped into you online but I didn't wave a greeting to you for I know you are not feeling very well cause of some nuisance happened to you in recent days. I think perhaps you should settle down and think twice it by yourself, no disturbance.
 For I just finished some of your latest posts. I came to realise that you really met with something unhappy in your current life. As one of your friends I feel very sorry after hearing that. All I want to say is that sometimes life is brutal and inhumane,this is life. God is fair to everyone, when he opened a window for you, another window must have been closed. So does people. You can't always wish things in your life going as you expected,that's nearly impossible.
 In addition, a few lines in your post grasp my attention. Yes,your colleague is right. Strangers are just strangers, never mind they are your net-pals or how many times they have talked with you. For we are physically seperated all over the country, no one knows what's the people he's talking to looks like, who is he or where he is from. 
 But sister, don't forget there are still many friends who are concerned about you. I appreciate your frank and sincere description about your life. Just like someone said:Who cares? We come here for sharing our viewpoints, minds,and suggestons. That's why we gathered here. What's more, sister, if you still take us as your good net-pals or we prefer to be called friends here, I hope we can share more of our life experience in this section.
 Besides, your story reminded me of my own happening not long time ago. It really happened to me and I have orginized it into a post I had sent here. I'm eager to enjoy your genuine reply very soon.
 Your earnest brother 
 Puppy

tataoo 发表于 2007-9-4 16:08:05

To say or not to say,it's really diffcult to make a dicision.We have no idea about what others are thinking about and what they are going to do.I am straightforward,too.I just can't understand why people like to make things complicated.

chengblue 发表于 2008-9-19 15:10:39

i am always silent in my life.i don't like to say any words to anybody,for my heart is closed,everything around me is so cold.

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ch- 发表于 2008-9-29 16:06:33