What do you do if you have a crush on someone and they don't know? 暗恋一个人的时候，你都做过哪些事？



下面是Quora用户的回答：

Franklin Veaux：

When I crush on someone, I have a policy: I say so.

我喜欢上别人的时候，会保持这样一种态度: 说出来。

I talk to the person I have a crush on and say "Hey, I have a bit of a crush on you, and I'd love to get to know you better if you're interested. Would you like to [activity] at [date and time]?"

我会和我喜欢的姑娘搭讪，跟她说“你好，我有点喜欢你，要是你也对我感兴趣的话，我想要多了解你一下。你愿意在[某时间地点] 一起做[某事]吗？

If the answer is yes, cool! We go out and see if it goes anywhere.

如果对方同意了，那就太棒了！我们可以出门约会，让感情自由发展。

If the answer is no, cool! I don't need to keep tormenting myself wondering "Is she interested? Is she interested? Is she interested?"

如果对方拒绝了，也很棒！我再也用不着折磨自己，天天揣测“她对我感兴趣么？她对我感兴趣么？她对我感兴趣么？”

It's a simple policy that works really well. I highly recommend it.


这一方法十分简单，屡试不爽。我强烈推荐哦。

Tejasvita Apte：

I walk up to him and tell him straight on his face.

我会走向他，当面告白。

There isn't a single crush of mine who didn't know I had a crush on him. (Including Quora crushes!) I have always made sure he knows.

我喜欢过的人几乎都知道我的心意。（也包括在Quora上喜欢过的人！）我总是让对方知道我的想法。

Most have thanked me. Some reciprocated the interest. Some didn't.

他们中的大多数都对我的爱意表示感谢。有的表示也喜欢我。有的不喜欢我。

To leave this world without expressing love is a pity. I have therefore always expressed love and will continue to do so.

没能表达出内心的爱就离开这个世界实在是一件憾事。所以我一直都在表达爱，也会一直如此。

I will also, always, endorse expression. Straight, simple and direct. Removes a lot of mental speculation too. Saves my energy!

我也会一如既往地支持大家去表达爱。既坦诚直率，简单明了，直截了当。也免去了不少暗自猜测。这省下来不少精力！

Go express love. The world needs it.

大胆地表达出爱意吧。这个世界需要爱。

Alison Cox：

Sometimes you 'crush' on someone because something they did or said resonated with a part of you.

有时候，一个人的言行举止引起了你的共鸣，你会因此对他产生一种迷恋。

You form a connection with that person and suddenly you can't stop thinking about them.

你和他之间形成了一种联系，而突然间你开始情不自禁地幻想这一切。

It's totally natural but you have to consider other factors before deciding to act on a crush.

尽管表达爱意合乎常情，但是在决定采取行动之前也要考虑一下其他因素。

If you're both single, then why not get to know that person better.

要是你们二人都是单身，那么何不多多了解对方。

I wouldn't waste time wondering and just ask that person if they'd like to get to know you better too over a coffee.

我才不会浪费时间自己瞎想，而是直接问他是否愿意一起喝杯咖啡，多了解我一下。

If you're crushing on someone when it's not appropriate to make a move, just enjoy the fluttery feelings.

要是你喜欢上的人不适合追求，就慢慢享受这种焦躁不安的小情绪吧。

Eventually you may get to know some other aspects of that person that will diminish the crush.

反正最后总是要了解到这个人的其他方面的，喜欢也会随之淡薄了。

Roshna Nazir：

Try all possible ways to garner his attention without letting him know how I feel about him.

我会使出浑身解数，吸引他的注意力，但是不会让对方知道我的小心思。

So basically, the whole idea is to portray myself as The Queen Bee to make sure he's impressed, so that he approaches me before I do.


所以基本上，这个方法就是扮演蜂后的角色，确定他动了心，这样他就会在我采取行动之前先追求我。

If it's here on Quora, upvote few intellectually stimulating answers on topics which I have no clue about, cross-check my profile and display picture, and then post an attention-seeking comment on one of his answers to make sure he visits my profile.

如果我喜欢上了Quora用户，我会先在话题中找到几条高智商答案，默默点赞，虽然我完全不知道这些讲的都是什么，再核对一下我的个人资料，头像图片，之后在他的一个回答下写上一条足以引人注意的评论，确保他会访问我的主页。

Preethi Sridhara：

Muster all the courage I have and tell him.

我会鼓起全部勇气，跟他表白。

What his reply is going to be is the least of my worries.

至于他会怎么答复我，就是我最不担心的事情了。

If he's interested, great. If not, I'll be fine with that. You can't make someone reciprocate your feelings. But getting it out of your system is so liberating.

要是他觉得可以的话就很好啊。要是不行，我觉得也可以接受。你总不能强迫别人和你有着一样心境吧。但是把暗恋讲出来实在是太解脱啦。

Vineet Singh：

During school days, Being a typical Introvert, I never had the courage to speak to her.

上学的时候，我很内向，几乎从不敢跟她讲话。

All I used to do was convince myself that she has the same level of crush on me, you know like a total douche-bag.

我过去经常告诉自己，她也一样喜欢我。你们知道的，我就像个傻蛋一样。

No matter how much she ignores, doesn't give a damn, stays aloof, I still kind of conclude that she might have a crush on me.

不管她多么不理睬我，对我多么不屑一顾，我仍然认为她可能喜欢我。

e.g. 例如

• when my crush starts talking to someone in front of me, I conclude that she is just trying to make me feel jealous.

每当她在我面前和别人讲话，我都认为是她故意让我嫉妒。

• when she sits with some other guy during a bus trip, i conclude that she is just shy 2 sit with me.

每当公车旅行她和别的男生坐在一起，我都认为是她不好意思坐在我旁边。

• when she turns her head backward to talk to someone who is sitting behind me, I conclude that she really wanted to see me.

每当她转过头和我身后的人讲话，我都认为她其实只是想看我一眼。

Like this, like that, I kept myself happy soon to realize the bitter sweet lie/truth.

点点滴滴，我乐此不疲，但不久就了解到了这苦涩甜蜜的谎言和事实。

Now, I just observe. no hopes nothing.

现在，我只默默凝视着她，不会再心存幻想了。

• loves the way her fringe of hair comes right in front of her face and then she puts it back behind her ears.

我喜欢她额前的一绺头发突然垂下来挡住了脸颊，然后她把头发轻轻别到耳后。

• when she tie her pony with a pin meanwhile concentrating hard on her PC

喜欢看她一边用头针扎起马尾一边还目不转睛盯着电脑的样子。

I guess crushes are like chocolate brownie with hot vanilla fudge. Something that needs to be savored till it last.

我猜，暗恋就像沾着热香草软糖的巧克力布朗尼，不到最后一刻，香浓不减。

Anonymous：

I had a crush on this guy from September, 2014. Back then both of us used to stay in the same city and worked for the same firm.

我从2014年9月起喜欢上了一个男生。那时我们在同一城市，同一家公司。

I would keep asking all our mutual friends to introduce us or I would spend sleepless nights stalking him on the internal communicator seeing him online but never had the guts to ping him or talk to him.

我总是嚷嚷着让我们的共同好友介绍我们相识，多少个不眠夜我在网络通讯工具上追踪他的一举一动，看到他在线，却从不敢发送出一个“打招呼”，更不敢跟他讲话。

In Jan'15, I got transferred to another city as my family stayed there.

15年2月份，因为我家人生活在另一个城市，所以我被公司外派到了那里。

On the last night in the city, my roommate casually asked, if I had any To-Do list in this city which I had failed to complete - there was only one thing that came to my mind instantly, I wish I could talk to him once, just once.

在这座城市逗留的最后一夜，我室友随口问起，在这座城市的愿望清单上我还有没有未完成的事¬-我立刻就想到了这唯一的一件事，我多希望能跟他说上一次话，一次就好。

I wish I could know him better.

我希望我能够多了解他一点。

On the same day as I joined the firm in the new city was his birthday and I pinged him to wish. And guess what? He replied.


我在新城市工作的第一天刚好是他的生日，所以我发送了生日祝福。你们猜怎么着？他回复了一个笑脸。

Next day, I come back to office and I find that he has added me to his Contact List, and what did I see, a ping from him saying - "Hi", For the next 2 minutes I could not believe my eyes.

第二天，我上班后，意外发现他竟然添加我为好友，还看到他发送了一个“打招呼”，说道“你好”。这之后的两分钟我都不敢相信我看到的一切。

That is how we started talking and yes I am dating the very same guy as I type this Answer.

我们就是这样开始聊天的，是的，我在打着这个答案的时候，正在和这个人约会。

And No, I was not the one to ask him out, he also turned out to have a crush on me, I am back in the same city from where it all started.

而且，不是我哦，不是我先开口说要约会的，后来刚好发现他也喜欢我，现在我回到了原来的城市，回到了这个爱恋开始的地方。

So yes, please GO, talk to that person, let that person know he/she is being admired. And you never know, you might turn out to be as lucky as I am. : D

所以，请大胆的行动吧，跟对方表白，让那个人知道有人爱慕着他/她。或许你会像我一样幸运也未可知呢。: