婚姻是每个人一生必须经历的过程，除非，还未到婚龄就像流星一样消逝，亦或是保定单身主义，否则，你势必走进婚姻这座围城。



Marriage is the crucial period which everyone has to experience. Except those who perish like the meteors before the age of getting married, or those who believe in bachelordom, you have to enter this besieged city--- marriage.



只是，你结婚了，却未必知道，你为什么而结婚，很多人，可能只是因为水到渠成，“我该结婚了，于是我结婚了！”。



However, you may have no idea why you get married even you have married. Most people may probably believe it is natural. “I get married because I should!”



结婚的理由很多很多，你是为了什么而结婚？如果你还没有结婚，你会在什么情况下选择结婚？如果有更多的人了解自己结婚的目的，如果有更多的人知道自己为什么结婚，那么，也许居高不下的离婚率就会有所改变了……



There are lots of reasons for getting married. What about yours? If you are single, on what condition will you get married? If more and more people understand well the purpose of their marriage and why they get married, then the divorce rate which remains high may be somewhat changed…

What is marriage? What do people get married for? For love ?or for materials? Each people get into marriage may be has different purpose.

什么是婚姻？人们结婚的目的是什么？为了爱情？还是为了物质？不同的人结婚的目的应该是各不相同吧。

I once read a book of Yudan, she says marriage is not one plus one, it is a chemical reaction, it is a beaker, before get into it , you should know first, which element will you react perfectly. may be it is really a good element, but it does not react with you, so , to you , it is a bad reaction. She also says, the best marriage is integration, accept each other’s social relationship, love each other’s friends and relatives, for marriage exists, we love each other deeply, love the world and do lots of brilliant things for the world.

我曾经读过于单的一本书，她说，婚姻不是一加一，她是一种化学反应，她是一个烧杯，在进入它之前，你首先就要知道，将会和哪个元素能够起比较好的化学反应，或许它也是一个好的元素，但是它就是不和你起反应，那么它对于你来说就是一个坏的元素，她还说，最好的婚姻是融合，认同接纳对方的社会关系，爱对方的亲戚和朋友，因为婚姻的存在，而更加深爱对方，更加的热爱着这个世界，为这个世界作出更多精彩的事情。

Sometimes , I think the marriage Yudan says is an ideal status, how many couple can reach this state?

有时候，我也会想，于单所说的婚姻是一种理想的状态，真正又有多少对夫妇可以达到这个境界？

if i have one ,i will marry him ,but he must be fit to me and he is better than me

爱对方所爱的人，感激对方的父母的养育，让你能够在今天遇到你的他（她）。

Love who his love, appreciate his parents to breeding. So that you can meet your love in this day.

For love……

Many times,in my opinion,"marriage is the grave of love."I'm so fear of it.

But like you said "Marriage is the crucial period which everyone has to experience. Except those who perish like the meteors before the age of getting married, or those who believe in bachelordom, you have to enter this besieged city--- marriage"

So if I'll marry with somebody,the main reason is for love.Meanwhile,the man who I'll marry needs ability,filial piety and so on.

In fact,I have to say in this society,so many people are realistic.Me too.So the remainder reason,I think will be for materials.

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1）to get marriage in stead of being divorced ~~~ “love him，love his mother~~~”；2）to get marriage is to avoid loneliness ~~ simply he must be honest，kind，knowledgeable，understand me....too much virtues should be showed in his normal behaviours~~~

"whom will you want to marriy with?',If someone ask me like that.I will say that I will married with her who can understand ,accept,respect,support me,and I can do so

This is the best state of married in my mind.

ihave no boyfriend now , but i have many imagine for he ,all imagine seems so beautiful,but i know find a ture love so difficult ,i know materials is very important,but for me ,love is must

sometimes, to some extend, love is the start of romantic life while marrige is the grave of love. frankly speaking,in modern society, most people prefer to be realistic.admittedly,stable marrige base on the finacial abilitly or background. however,it doesnot weight all!a marrige without true love means dull, colorfulless

Wow,this is a very good topic with us.But ,still,even if we knew answer,could not do best in real life.

To married for love,materials ,or others reason it's does not matter.The most important's thing that is how we can make us more happy in marridge life?

integrity each other or love deeply or care very much.maybe we did not know which answer is the best,because everybody have everybody life.

perish vi.毁灭, 死亡, 腐烂, 枯萎

meteor n.流星, 大气现象

bachelordom n.单身,

besiege vt.围困, 围攻, 包围

divorce n.离婚, 脱离

YEAH.ITS LOVE.

a meaningful life need marriage. for society human being need contining. for a man/woman making up a family is best way to live.