9. With Strangers and Friends

1) Lending and borrowing are more matters of principle in the West than in the East. Things borrowed in the West are definitely expected to be returned, whether it is fifty dollars or merely a friend's pencil.

2) Don't Be Curious

It is impolite to be curious about the private affairs of others, such as age, salary, religion and marriage.

3) Thanks for Gifts

When some one gives you a present, it is very impolite to neglect thank him for it.

4) One Hand Only

In china we use two hands when giving something to a person, or when receiving it, if we want to be very polite. In the West this would seem awkward and impolite.

10. Personal Habits and Appearance

1) People judge you at first by what they see, so particular attention should be paid to your personal appearance.

2) Using a Handkerchief

Always carry a clean handkerchief. Do not use it while it is folded, and do not fold it after you use it.

3)Spitting

In the West it is considered very impolite to spit, even upon the street.

4) Smoking

Smoking is very prevalent(普遍), both by men and by women. If you are a guest in a home where no others are smoking, it is better to refrain(忍住） from smoking, you may say, "Would you mind if I smoked?".

11. Some Points for Men

1) With a Lady

Always allow the lady to precede you in places where one has to go before the other except in the following case: when getting off a street car, train, bus, or out of an automobile; when going up stair; when opening a heavy door. When you are walking along the street with a lady, always walk on the outside.

2) At a Dance

If you wish to dance with a certain lady, go to her, bow, and say:" May I have the pleasure of a dance?"