现实就是这样：生活困顿，职场失意，成功路上铺满荆棘。那么能否在逆境中安然自若并能继续前行，就取决于能否培养以韧性为中心的个人习惯了。

韧性是逐步锻炼出来的强壮的心理素质。虽然这种能力不是天生的，但这是一个可以养成的习惯，一个可以学习的技能。对我们每个人来说都非常重要。

你的心理素质够强大吗？看看是否具备这4个特征：

1They're connected to their emotions. 关注自己的情绪。

Resilient people understand their emotions and how to manage them. Some people say that suppressing what you feel is the best approach when you're going through tough times, but it's just the opposite--suppressing your emotions can backfire.

韧性强的人理解并懂得处理自己的情绪。有的人说，压抑自己的情绪是度过困境的最好方法，但事实上刚好相反——压抑自己的情绪只会造成事与愿违的效果。

People who are highly anxious or have a lot on their minds tend to struggle with unwanted thoughts. Resilient people are connected to their emotions and self-aware, which gives them more control.

内心焦虑的人，或心理负担重大的人常常会纠结于多余的想法。而心理素质强大的人就会关注自己的情绪，倾听自己内心的声音，这样能够更好地控制情绪。



2They don't listen to negative voices in their heads. 忽视头脑里那消极的声音。



Resilient people are able to get past the negativity and dig deeper to discover what's triggering it. Then instead of taking it to heart, they're able to turn it into positive intentions.

心理素质强大的人能够摆脱负面的情绪，更深入地思考其中的原因。他们不会把负面的想法放到心上，而是把它们转化为积极的动力。

Resilient people are optimistic and believe in their own strength and ability to overcome any problems. In a crisis, a resilient person will be positive, open and willing to find the solution.

他们都很乐观，相信自己的优点和处理问题的能力。当他们遇到了困难，他们会表现出积极开放的态度，敢于寻找解决方法。

They will not be dwelling on the problem but looking forward to the future solutions that should be considered.

他们不会纠缠在问题上，而是对可行的方法抱有希望。



3They don't need to control everything. 不必事事控制在手。

Resilient people are comfortable with not controlling everything. They know how to come to terms with external circumstances; they understand that the only thing they can do is focus on what's within their sphere of control--their own attitude, their own emotions, their own behavior.

心理素质强大的人不会把每一件事情都牢牢掌握在自己的手上。他们懂得如何适应外部环境，清楚明白唯一需要关注的便是控制欲背后的核心——态度，情绪和行为。



4They know how to bounce back. 情绪恢复力强。



Resilient people know how bounce back, The word Resilience has its origin in the Latin word resilire, which means to jump back.

意志坚韧的人们懂得如何恢复情绪。Resilience（反弹力）这个词来源于拉丁词汇resilire，也就是“往回跳”的意思。

Resilience is knowing how to bounce back from adversity and life challenges. It's something any of us can do--we just need to learn how. Tough-minded resilient people will not allow life's circumstances to push them down and hold them under.

情绪弹力就是懂得从逆境和生活变化中恢复过来——我们都可以做到，只需要学习就能掌握。心理素质强大的人不会让生活环境的变化压倒自己。

These habits are not easy to cultivate, but if you make them a part of your emotional toolkit they will help you develop the strength and toughness to get through the worst of times.

以上这些习惯虽然并不是一时三刻能够学会的，但你可以把它们当作情绪工具的一部分，从而培养应对最困难时期的耐力和韧性。