How to deal with this problem if you find your child watches TV or surfs on the net secrectly ?



玩不但是孩子的天性，也是我们所有人的天性，就像我们在上班的时候也免不了思想偷偷溜走或者去做一

些与工作无关的娱乐。如果一个孩子连玩都不喜欢，那我们应该去带他们看心理医生了。

　　现在的孩子从小学到高中没有一个阶段是轻松的，每天上学除外，也少不了各种补习班或者特长班。

终于放假可却还要写作业学习。本应该写作业的时间，我们外出回家却发现电视机被换成卡酷动画台，或

者发现他们偷偷的开过电脑和同学上网聊天玩游戏等，作为家长你的第一反应会怎样？

　　狠批孩子一顿？拔掉网线？

还是与孩子商定协议？

或者讲个什么故事引导他们？

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如何教育孩子，确实让人很是头痛。一万个孩子，有一万个个性。说重了，怕伤到孩子。说轻了，起不到作用。有时候调皮的实在让人无法忍受，哎，挺难的～～

给电脑设置密码.合理规定时间上,另外大人有时间多陪陪他们,以身做则,多鼓励,给他们树立自信!

和孩子商定协议，完成任务再玩。

I don't have ideas ,because i have not a children as far.but if i have one ,face this state,i will guide him to good side ,i will do something good side myself to guide him ,instead of wachting TV, surf net ,i reading ,writing ,and do exersice,give them a good atmosphere.

1. we 've been calling for reducing the learning load of children for a long time but the result is the schoolbags of children become heavier than before.

it s widely believed that during the stage of primary education, we should not have over used cramming teaching mothods and given little time to children to play or study freely,resulting in the lack of motivation for childrenand high pressure for both children and parents.

this is what ordinary people can not change at present. but we can change our children and ourselves to adjust to this education system.

2. to encourage your child to study , first both teacher s and parents need to make friends with him or her.

my son is 9 years old and is fascinated by playing computer games. like many parents, i used to try to explain the importance of study and the harm of palying computer games or even use compulsary measures. but that didnt work well. some children like my son might stand on the opposite side of us and take countermeasures to deal with us, such as playing secretly.

later, i became a little clever and did my best to make friends with him and we even played computer games together. at last , i got his trust and he began to listen to what i told him to do. in this way, he gradually accepted my advice and was able to strike a balance between study and play.

this is my own experience. i share it with you here with a hope that it could be of some help.

i will make a deal with my chid ,if she can complete the task assignmentat the time required ,that she can watch TV .i think watch can open child's mind,

I'll not reprimand her at the moment when I find my daughter watches TVor surfs on the net secretly. I'll watch or play with her for a moment and then I'll give her a question friendly with interesting,take for example, "A wonderful teleplay!,am i right?" or " A fascinating game , I like it very much,do you think so?", then I 'll give hermy suggestion.

设置密码,给孩子布置好任务,完成后可以上会!孩子还是会很听话的!

My son used to try all means to play computer games whenever he was free.What made me a little relieved was that he would first ask for the permission. Sometimes he even lied to us that he had finished his homework in order to get the permission for playing on the computer. I used to get cross when I was found cheated, but now I have learnt to control my anger and spend more time with him. My husband and I will first make sure that he has done all his homework before allowing him to play computer games. What's more, he is allowed to play twice a day at the weekend, one hour for each time. Then we'll take him outdoors, climbing the hill, playing badminton, reading books in the bookstore, and so on. Gradually he finds more and more interesting and meaningful things in the outside world and no longer stays at home all day playing cyber games.

From my point of view, only those children who find no other interesting way to spend their spare time will be addicted to computer games. So it's the duty for us parents to help them keep away from that addiction. Just spend a little more time together with your children, and you'll find your children like playing with you much more than those cyber games.

My child has not got to that age it

We learn to learn

make some setting on PC operating system limit the entertaiment time, dont let them abuse video games.as we know, kids are usually less self-disiplined,without adults'supervision and guidance, children are less likely to focus on their study once obssessed with online games.

做完作业放松下也行的,要合理安排好时间